13 red flags a guy is playing you!

Do you think the guy you like is playing you?

We all know the playboy type by now (aka fuckboy). He’s charming, charismatic, and clever with his words. He loves himself, and he knows women love him too.

While a player may be fun for a while, there should be no place for him in a classy girl’s world. Why? Because you deserve better.

It’s easy to get blinded by the rose-tinted glasses in a new romance. However, you could miss some red flags a guy is playing you.

The best way not to be played is by reading the signs early!

Here are 13 red flags a guy is playing you.

1. The player is self-absorbed

This red flag, though so obvious, is one easy to be hoodwinked by. (especially if you’re a sucker for the charm).
Narcissistic, charismatic, and egotistical are just some of the qualities he may possess.
He loves the sound of his own voice, and he talks a good game. But after a while, you may feel like your energy has been sucked right out of you.

Pay attention to how you feel around him, and don’t get blindsided by his self-absorbed swagger.

2. The players cheated before

They say once a cheater, always a cheater! Well, I personally like to believe that people can change. Still, when he’s consistently justifying himself by saying he’s left his womanizing and bad reputation behind, and yet his own friends are warning you against him. RUN to the nearest exit, or you could be next!

3. The player doesn’t take you out on dates

If he hasn’t taken you out on a proper date, even if it’s just for a coffee and a walk in the park, then you could be dating a player (and a cheap one at that!).

If he doesn’t want to invest a few dollars in a coffee, he won’t invest much of his emotions and time in the future.

This is a red flag; he’s keeping it casual and doesn’t see the value you are truly worth. (and, girl, that’s way more than a coffee).

4. The player wants to meet up late at night

This is a red flag I’ve personally fallen for. Suppose your guy asks you to meet him at 10 pm for the first time after church in a car park where it’s quiet and dark. Ummm, maybe DON’T do that. (Okay, I know, I wasn’t the smartest cookie).

Although going for late-night adventures sounds fun, this isn’t something to do if you’ve just started dating a guy. He’s clearly not respecting you and thinks he’s got it in the bag.

If he conveniently wants late-night meetups at his house and he’s not taking you on proper dates or meeting you during the day when other human beings are around… STOP wasting your time because you’re likely dating a player, and a BIG one at that.

5. The player is fast moving then slow burning

Right at the beginning of the romance, he will most likely give it 100%. His sun will shine on you, and your temperature will be hot! You’ll feel like he only has eyes for you. He’s attentive, persistent, smooth-talking, and tells you precisely what you want to hear.

Your social media accounts will be bombarded with compliments in the wee hours of the morning. But at some point, the sun must go down, and it goes down quicker than you’re Mother’s home-cooked meatballs!

This drastic temperature drop in his attentive behavior is a sure red flag you’re on the edge of being …..PLAYED.

6. The player doesn’t listen

He might listen to hear for his own pre-empt reaction, but he isn’t genuinely listening. The men who care about you will remember the little things that even you forgot to tell them.

If he’s not genuinely listening and asking more in-depth questions other than what bra size you are, then it sounds like he will genuinely….ah….play you.

7. The player always texts and uses social media instead of calling

It’s pretty much the norm to contact each other via texting/social media. But if the guy you’re dating is constantly hiding behind a screen instead of wanting to hear your voice, even if it’s just for the odd “how was your day” convo, then he could either be lazy, shy, or it’s a red flag this guy is playing you.

And if he’s contacting you only through Snapchat, then say no more. If you try and start a conversation on another social media platform and he still insists on using Snapchat, then he could be a player.

8. The player talks about his exes far too much

There’s nothing wrong with talking about the ex here and there, but when it’s on a first date, and he not only talks about one but three of them, and two of them were models…it’s like OK “cool story, bruh“!

If his attention isn’t on you but on his ex-girlfriends, he’s not only a player but a total douchebag! (and clearly not over one of the exes.)

9. The player gets sexual too fast

• If the majority of his compliments are “you’re so sexy” or “you have nice boobs, ” he has one thing on his mind.
• If he’s asking for seductive images, he has one thing on his mind.
• If he’s trying to get it on with you, he’s proving he has one thing on his mind.
• If the first thing he does on your first date is put on Netflix and starts kissing you without any depth of a conversation, this is definately a red flag a guy is playing you.

PLAYER ALERT!!!

10. The player is resistant to letting you into his circle of friends

When truly interested and invested in someone, you are proud to show them off to your family and friends. But when you invite the player into your world, he’ll find excuses. And if he’s not letting you into his world after a while, you could be his dirty little secret. If he also makes plans with you and doesn’t follow through consistently, he’s either leading you on, has commitment issues, or you’re dating a player.

11. The player posts photos of himself with other girls on social media

I once knew a guy who would always post images of himself with other girls online like they were his trophies, even though he was seeing someone.  I felt they feed his Hugh Hefner-styled reputation and ego even more.

Deep down, if a guy needs that much ego-boosting and gets a kick-off on how many likes he has on his philandering social media photos, then it’s a sign of some major insecurities, or well, you guessed it, he’s a player.

12. The player ghosts you

When you’ve been out on a few dates and think things are going well, then suddenly…POOF! He turns into a ghost, leaving you to ponder where he went. Then chances are you have been GHOSTED! It’s not a nice feeling and sadly has become the norm in today’s dating world. This is a red flag you were dating a guy who can’t man up, or he could be a player.

13. The player is guarded with his phone

If the guy you’re seeing seems secretive, defensive, or guards his phone like a crow, then he’s probably got something to hide, which means you shouldn’t wait around long enough to find out because chances are you’re dating a player.

Don’t get played with the signs you’re dating a player

Ladies, don’t get played! Dating a player might seem fun at first, but this can lead to heartache and ruin your self-confidence.

If a guy you’re dating isn’t investing his time, money, or emotions and shows any of these signs, date with caution and don’t be taken in by his irresistible charm. Watch out for his actions and not his sugar-coated words.

What are some of the signs of a player that you’ve experienced? Share them below.