If you’re reading this post, chances are you’re asking yourself – do I really like him?
Are you dating someone you’re not sure you’re into? But you’re conflicted because they’re good-looking, caring, love dogs and look great on paper!
But is that enough?
When is it time to acknowledge that perhaps you don’t really like him and realize it’s time to let that fish back into the sea for someone else to catch?
Not all relationships start with instant passionate fireworks, and I know of relationships that have started as slow burners that have grown into happy marriages.
But how long do you wait for your slow-burning candle to ignite some sort of flame?
If the positive attributes of the person you’re dating are not warming you up then all you have to do is look at the signs telling you – you don’t really like him.
Do I really like him? Let’s find out!
1. You have to think long and hard if you like him
This is a dead giveaway! If you find yourself overthinking and overanalysing him until your head hurts, then you probably don’t need to read any further cause, you’re just not that into him.
2. You would rather stay home than see him
He’s asking you out, but all you want to do is stay home in your PJs and watch a movie. But instead of telling them the truth you come up with lame excuses like, “my dog has chickenpox” or “my car ran out of petrol” or the one that backs them off every time…” I’m throwing up from both ends“. (Okay, not classy, but it’ll do the trick.)
3. You can’t be yourself
At the beginning of a romance, it’s normal to act a little differently than you would if you were hanging out with your friends. But if you’re still finding it hard to open up after a few months and you just can’t quite let the true cray cray out of the bag ( I mean the innocent, sweet angel) then you’re either scared of something, or you don’t really like him.
4. They don’t give you butterflies
If they don’t give you butterflies and the excitement level of seeing them doesn’t rise above a 5/10 after a few months, then I’m pretty sure your intuition is telling you, you don’t really like him. Or, you could start a friendship with him and see if a slow-burn relationship develops later.
5. You can go days without seeing him
You can go days without seeing him and not miss him. You might look forward to seeing them, but there’s no rush because you have many other things on your priority list, and he clearly isn’t on that list.
6. You don’t see a future with him
You find it hard to see a future with him, and they don’t quite fit into your lifestyle, core values, and future goals. You may also resist threading your life, family, and friends with his. And quite frankly you don’t see yourself combining DNA with your future babies!
7. You don’t gush over him when he messages you
Gushing over someone in the early stages to the point where it’s nearly annoying is a good sign you really like him. When you first start talking to a guy you really like, there are many reasons to get excited about receiving even a simple text. However, if you’ve seen each other for a while and you’re not even slightly hesitant to send him a message, this may be a sign that you’re not really into him.
8. His habits repulse you
Once I dated a guy with hygiene issues that weren’t a huge deal but admittedly made me cringe. Do you get repulsed by the little habits, even small ones like biting his nails, or the glorious moment when he starts farting in front of you and picking his nose?
If you’re consistently talking about their little annoying habits, expressing doubt and not what a total babe he is, then you might not like him enough.
True love gets past all this shit, but if you’re already having doubts, these little habits that repulse you are a sign you’re just really grossed out, or – you really don’t like him.
9. You don’t want to be intimate with him
Are you always coming up with excuses for why you can’t sleep over? And when you do you catch yourself wishing you were somewhere else?
Let’s face it, humans are visual creatures, and for the most part, it’s our appearance and the way we carry ourselves at the beginning that is the bait that will get that hot little fishie hooked and on the line!
If it’s not their looks, it’s their charm, swagger or intellectual mind. After you hook them with your first impression, you get to know the heart and soul and how amazing they are.
If you’re not finding them attractive in any way, and find the thought of sharing a future bed with him repulsive, then you probably don’t like him. not like him.
10. Do I really like him or just the attention?
Who doesn’t like attention? Attention is important to your physical and mental wellbeing, however, not all attention is good attention. When you actually like a person, it means you have a genuine interest in them, including their wellbeing, and taking interest in their hobbies and everything else that makes them who they are.
Sometimes it’s just nice to have regular and reliable human interaction, especially when you have nothing else to do. But if you could easily replace him with another guy and risk losing the current guy, you’re most likely wasting his time and yours.
What are some signs you don’t really like a guy? Share and comment below!
Emmy Love's passion for writing and storytelling started at a young age. After a career travelling the world on cruise ships, she now utilizes her background in acting, marketing and copywriting and writes romantic comedies with her two adorable writing assistants Mercedes and Bentley. Follow her on Facebook or Instagram for her latest book release!